To Blog or Not to Blog – My Story
WELCOME ! I’m glad you’re here—even if at first it is because you are curious. Curious about what this blogger, me, really has to say.
YOU want to know—Can I HELP YOU? Are the words I’m writing out here in the vast ocean of bloggers going to help EMPOWER YOU in your own life and circumstances to find HOPE and a FUTURE for YOU and your family?
Well, I hope so! I’m hoping YOU and I can become great virtual friends as I share with you and you share with me.
Through my sharing from my own experiences and life lessons—YOU will be able to lift your head higher. Straighten your shoulders and know that YOU can make it too. One day at a time.
Why listen to me? I asked the same questions when people started telling me I should blog. Why? Why me?
Do I know heartaches? Do I know struggles?
In a nutshell, YES, I do—as many of YOU do too. So briefly, I will share my background with you so you can see that I can relate to many of you because—Been there, done that.
BRIEF HISTORY–MY CHILDHOOD:
- FAITH — At age 8 I gave my heart to Jesus.
- DEATH — I was 9 when my 30 year old dad suddenly died from a massive heart attack.
- PHYSICAL ABUSE – Being the eldest of 3—I grew up that day. My mom, aged 29, slipped into depression and violent rages. Years later—in her 60’s she was finally diagnosed and medicated correctly as Bipolar Personality. So I know all about the “manic” and “depressive” issues from the other side.
- ABANDONMENT/BLENDED FAMILY – From there, my mom remarried less than 2 years later to a single dad of 3—similar in age to my siblings and I. As she sought to blend with her new husband and his children—she sent me and my siblings away.
- EARLY “PRIDE” DAYS – For a year my siblings and I moved across the province to live with a work acquaintance of my dad’s. A gay man we lovingly called “Uncle Al”.
- CHILD VICTIM – As my teen years progressed, my grandfather sexually assaulted me.
BRIEF HISTORY: FIRST MARRIAGE
- ADULT VICTIM – At the age of 19, I married and although having been engaged for over a year—I wasn’t prepared for the RAPE. It took two years to finally cry out to God for His Help, His Escape Plan. Which as I drifted into unconsciousness—God whispered to me. When I regained consciousness, I put that plan into action—I escaped.
- HOMELESSNESS – For weeks I was homeless on the streets—Women’s Shelters were just starting to emerge, the closest one too far away. I was working full-time and attending college too. So I slept in doorways, alleys, and washed in the staff bathroom at work.
- STALKING – During this time, and for an additional 3 years, my husband stalked me. Even to this day, I’m still jumpy if someone enters the room and I’m unaware.
- DIVORCE – I was elated when my 1st husband finally served me with divorce papers.
BRIEF HISTORY: SECOND MARRIAGE
- FAILED MARRIAGE #2/INFIDELITY – Husband #2, ten years and 3 children together. I knew of his many mistresses. My world crashed when our daughter, age 4, came and told me things that daddy was doing when I was at work.
- MARRIED TO A PEDOPHILE ??– My PTSD raised its ugly head. WHAT ?! I couldn’t protect myself as a child, and now I discovered I couldn’t protect my own child !!
- BANKRUPTCY – This marriage crumbled—forced into bankruptcy—the kids and I started our lives over. Now I was that “single parent” in low-income housing on Social Assistance. I cried and cried.
- CHILDREN’S AID – Children’s Aid and police interviewed my children—I was called “vindictive, filing false reports, no proof of my daughter’s claims, etc.” I was told I would be jailed and my husband would get full custody—I couldn’t let that happen. I minimized the visits—because if I were in jail—how could I help her? But by law–I had to let him have access. At age 18 she finally came forward to the authorities and he was found guilty.
- SINGLE PARENTHOOD — A 5 year journey. I had to fully rely on God. I’ve experienced really tight finances, and the humiliation of our Social Services system. I’ve learned to scrimp, save and make my own recipes on $100/month for groceries. I learned to make Christmas and birthday presents for my kids. That was when something, although always there, took deeper root and started to grow. People in need, people in distress, need to be treated better and with dignity and respect from the general public, Social Services, and Community Organizations that should be standing beside and behind the hurting ones such as myself—not step on us more.
MOVING TOWARDS A BETTER FUTURE
- HEALING — From here, God started the process of healing my heart, and its various layers of heartache.
- MARRIAGE #3 – Now at the age of 36, three’s the charm—life, hope, and a future—restored. Five years of single parenthood were put behind me as a wonderful, compassionate, and godly man sought to mend my heart and life. We are still going strong 17 years later—and from the start we’ve tried to reach out to those hurting around us.
- MISSIONARIES — We are able to assist over 2,000 families physically in our local community every year by giving them ordinary donated household items to them for FREE. We’ve grown into this role of missionaries in full-time ministry. At first it was giving someone a toaster, then it progressed to the point that our whole home is a warehouse. We now give away beds, appliances, clothes, etc. Although we don’t deal in food—there are several Food Banks in our region, we do try to EMPOWER people in need by trying to RESTORE their DIGNITY and RESPECT. Aiming to treat everyone with kindness, understanding, and compassion.
MOVING FORWARD TO HELPING YOU !!
Through this process we hope and try to EMPOWER people to be able to lift themselves out of shame and circumstances and move towards HOPE and a FUTURE.
Now as we continue to help as many people physically in our region—others whom we’ve assisted over the years have approached and asked me to SHARE more of my:
- and by doing so, bring YOU with me.
To EMPOWER YOU. To show YOU—HOPE and a FUTURE—no matter your own past, your pain, your situation.
COME! WELCOME! JOIN US!
It is written: Galatians 6:1-3 (amplified version)
“Brethren, if any person is overtaken in misconduct or sin of any sort, you, who are spiritual (who are responsive to and controlled by the Spirit) should set him right and restore and reinstate him, without any sense of superiority and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eye on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.
Bear (endure, carry) one another’s burdens and troublesome moral faults, and in this way fulfill and observe perfectly the law of Christ (the Messiah) and complete what is lacking (in your obedience to it).
For if any person thinks himself to be somebody (too important to condescend to shoulder another’s load) when he is nobody (of superiority except in his own estimation), he deceives and deludes and cheats himself.”
WOMEN MENTORING WOMEN
Now in my 50’s, I see my role shifting and changing, once again. Not only to keep working in this ministry—but to move beyond and teach in a greater way. Well in this world of technology—the way to connect on a huge scale is to BLOG. For more information about Free Stuff 4 Daily Needs and my husband and I you can read more at About Us.
So to Blog or Not to Blog—well the answer seems to be—BLOG.